Respond!  don’t react.

How to respond but not react to the person who is addicted to porn depends on the age group and gender & relationship.

 

 

HOW TO RESPOND TO

 

 

  1. CHILD
2.  SPOUSE 3.  FRIEND (OR) RELATIVE

 

 

 

RESPOND TO CHILD

 

 

 

 

DO NOT YELL OR SHOUT

This reaction makes child to feel guilt or shame or fear.

 

 

NOT CONDEMNATION

Remember child need help not condemnation. Never say that child is Bad child.  Its an enemy attack is on child.



PARENT'S  IGNORE

 

   
Some Parents Ignore this issuse because
 
         
  1:They can't face Reality 2:They live in Denial
3:Afraid to Confront 4:Cultural Barrier
         
   
5:Some think this is Common so they ignore this issue
 
         


DO NOT IGNORE

If you don’t handle this issue right a way the roots grow deep as child grows.

 


IT EFFECTS

 

  1. CHILD'S LIFE
2.  CHILD'S FAMILY 3.  SOCIETY

 

 

Parents love & protection

  1. First stay calm. Ask Lord for help & Think.
    • Both parents discuss, pray and be on same page before you talk to child.
    • If you are single parent talk to your close friend or relative for help and talk to child.
    • How it was introduced & Who introduced ?
    • Ask if its first time child viewed porn or it became an habit or addiction
    • Ask what child have viewed (Even though its very uncomfortable & heartbreaking)
    • Just saying “DON’T WATCH” is not enough.
    • “Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.”Proverbs 22:6
  2. Remember child had very wrong impression about sex. Explain them that sex is not bad. God designed sex as part of the unique relationship of marriage.

 

 

STEPS TO DISCIPLINE



    • Teach child how porn addiction effects the mind, behavior, body and relationships like other any other drug addictions. (Check our website)
    • Give less access to gadgets & other accessible things. Keep the computer in hall where everyone can use and watch what they are using.
    • Give them cell phone, which doesn't have Internet access.
    • Internet filters are effective, but not perfect, a combination of a filter and an accountability web application like
    • Free internet download and Parental control –
    • http://www1.k9webprotection.com

 

    Dr. Caroline Leaf – Brain Scientist - Prayer
    It has been found that 12 minutes of daily focused prayer over an eight-week period can change the brain to such an extent that it can be measured on a brain scan. This type of prayer seems to increase activity in brain areas associated with social interaction compassion and sensitivity to others. It also increases frontal lobe activity as focus and intentionality increase. Intentional prayer can even change physical matter.

 

    Prayer with Word of God as Family
    • This issue is spiritual – Its demonic. Only through God’s power we can overcome.
    • Surrender child & situation to Lord Jesus Christ.
    • Pray with child and encourage child to read Bible and reflect on it.
    • Praise and worship Lord with songs. Play songs of Holiness and Love of God!
    • Let them meditate/memorize Bible verses. (Check on website Proclamations)
    • Do this daily. Be consistent.
    • Its very powerful and effective if parents intercede for child. Early morning prayers are powerful.
    • Teach children regularly how to guard themselves when temptation comes again.



 

RESPOND TO SPOUSE

 

 

    Its easy to respond to others who are addicted with porn but Its hard to respond without reacting when spouse is addicted. You might think its common sense to flee from these things. You feel hurt, betrayal, rejection etc. But its important to seek God for your inner healing and to Respond to your spouse. You can do through Christ who strengthens you.

     

     

    4 - STEPS



        STEP 1:    Forgiveness of Sin STEP 2:    Dissipline /Accountability  
        STEP 3:    Breaking ungodly soul ties STEP 4:    Keeping the Deliverence  
       
       


    Step 1 – Forgiveness of sin

    • Person should ask forgiveness from God and spouse & admit the sin because its sinning against God and spouse. -  1 John 1:9 - But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.
    • Humbling, being honest and Repentance is very important before God and spouse. - James 5:16 –Confess your sins to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.

     

    Step 2 - Discipline

    • Disciplined action should be taken. Limit the usage of Internet, bad movies, TV shows and bad magazines.
    • Install porn blockers software on all gadgets and phones. Anti-porn, Porn-blocker.
    • K-9 software - http://www1.k9webprotection.com
    • http://www.covenanteyes.com/services/internet-filtering/

    Spouse can have alerts through emails or texts of revisit of porn sites. It’s important to have another person of same gender if spouse is not willing to be accountable.

     

    Step 3 - Breaking ungodly soul ties

    • As persons soul is tied to pornography its very important to renounce and break those ungodly soul ties. if there are any names of persons on online chat. - Mathew 5:28 - "But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 

     

    Prayer : I ask for forgiveness lord and I break all ungodly soul ties from pornography. Every enemy hold in my life I break in Jesus name!

    • There will be a sign of deliverance either something leaving or a big sigh, coughing or vomiting, or screaming…etc. Always deliverance happens with manifestation. 

     

    Step 4  - Keeping the deliverance

    • After deliverance and breaking all ungodly soul ties its very important to keep the freedom. Jesus healed a paralytic person John 5 :14 -  But afterward Jesus found him in the Temple and told him, “Now you are well; so stop sinning, or something even worse may happen to you.”
    • Satan tries to bring more evil spirits into us if person dwells in sin.
    • Please read, write and meditate scriptures.
    • Music of Singing Praise & Worship to Jesus keeps your mind on God and He will be enthroned on your praises.
    • Only word of God, prayer and Worship can change our mind & life.
    • Its more effective when wife and husband pray together daily.

 

 

RESPOND TO FRIEND

 

 

Its important to reach out to your friend or relative who are struggling with porn addiction. Confrontation with love is important.  If they agree to receive help from you then you can go ahead or else please pray that they shouldn’t harden their heart to Lord.

    1. Tell them that they are victims of Satan’s plan, But God has beautiful and holy plan for them. Give them hope.

    2. Do not condemn them, have compassion of Lord & guidance from Holy Spirit . Jesus forgiven adulterous woman and said where are your accusers now?

    3. Its important not to counsel opposite gender but to same gender and maintain confidentiality.

    4. Tell them how does it effects their whole being (Check our site porn effects)

    Let the person have accountability to you until they are free from it.
    Its very important to confess their sin before Lord and ask Him for forgiveness.  You can agree with them in prayer. Breaking ungodly soul ties is very important, renounce & cast out all the names or talks/chats they did with the person online.  Keep away all the gadgets and give very less access to Internet. On phones its important to not have internet. Install porn free filters and advertisements. Like K-9 or Covenant eyes.  Encourage them to have personal time with Lord every day with proclamations of bible verses. Point them to Lord. Mentor them to be holy people. (Please find Proclamation in our website prayer.)  

 

Some people come out very soon from this addiction but for some it takes time. Be patient with them.

  1. Your Intercession - Standing in the gap for them makes huge difference in their lives.
  2. It’s important to keep the freedom in life continually.  Once enemy leaves he tries to come back again to see if he has any hold on the person and if he finds the sin is still there he will bring few more with him. The situation of the person will become worst than before.