HELP YOUR SPOUSE




HUSBAND HOOKED TO PORNOGRAPHY? WHAT NOW?

 

    When husband has pornography addiction first reaction as wife is
    Anger, Rejection, Betrayal and Thoughts to Divorce him.


Husband may blame wife about her body or beauty or he may say that he is not satisfied with sexual life with his wife. But don’t devalue yourself.

Most common reason for this addiction is emptiness or pain in their soul.


What’s now?
Is there solutions for this problem ? YES there is !!

WEDDING VOWS AND BETRAYAL

 


Though husband is unfaithful & betrayed you, you can choose to forgive him and help him to overcome this addiction. At wedding both vowed before God.

"I, ___, take thee, ___, to be my wedded husband/wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God's holy ordinance; and thereto I pledge thee my faith [or] pledge myself to you.

CHOOSE TO FORGIVE

 

As a wife you may go through pain of betrayal, anger and unfogiveness, bitterness. But its very important to forgive your husband daily basis. Its very important how to handle this situation

You can find strength and healing only in Jesus Christ who is Comforter, by spending time with Him daily basis.

Share your burden with a friend or relative – lady or a Godly couple who is trustworthy & can maintain confidentiality who can walk with you and your family in this transition with intercession. Its very important to Intercede. Its spiritual battle.

PORNOGRAPHY- ENEMIES TRAP, ITS EFFECTS SPIRIT, SOUL & BODY

 

Remember its Satan’s attack on a person’s Spirit, Soul and Body.

Revelation 2:14


    Some of changes happens to him are:
Changes in appetite, sleep patterns, Mood swings, withdrawal symptoms such as headaches, irritation, sleeplessness, lack of focus, lack of interest, loss of judgment,  impulsiveness, Anxiety or depression, impotence with spouse, frequent masturbation.




Porn addiction grieves God and spouse and family.

STEP 1: REPENTANCE

 

A person should acknowledge that he need help to come out of the porn addiction.
Its  spiritual & mind battle.
He should be willing to be free from this struggle.
Its like many other addictions – alcohol,  drugs etc.

The first step is to accept responsibility for his sin.

Repentance is very important before God and spouse.

1 John 1:9 - But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness.

James 5:16 –Confess your sins to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.

STEP 2: BREAKING ALL UNGODLY SOUL TIES & DELIVERANCE

 


By submitting to the Lord and asking forgiveness he is  removing all the legal rights of enemy in his life. Please pray this following prayer :

“Lord Jesus ! I ask for forgiveness for I have sinned against you and my wife.  I break all ungodly soul ties from all the porn stars and every conversation with them through  chatting.  I renounce them. I submit myself to you Lord and resist the devil.  Every enemy hold in my life I break in Jesus name! “

Often there will be a manifestation of deliverance of evil spirits which entered into the person through porn sites. Some of manifestation can be like evil spirits leaving him with a big sigh, coughing, yawning or vomiting, or screaming, body pains etc. Always deliverance happens with manifestation.

Its very important to the person who is addicted to porn to renounce and break all the ungodly soul ties from porn stars and chatting.

James 4:7 - Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

STEP 3: DISCIPLINE

 

1. Limit the usage of Internet. Only limit to work if needed.
2. Destroy all bad magazines and books which are unholy.


Install porn blockers software on all gadgets and phones. Anti-porn, Porn-blocker.

  1. K-9 software - http://www1.k9webprotection.com
  2. http ://www.covenanteyes.com/services/internet-filtering/


Wife can have alerts on email if husband try to revisit porn sites. Its important to have another person of same gender to be accountable.

STEP 4: KEEPING THE DELIVERANCE & DAILY DEVOTION

 

After deliverance and breaking ungodly soul ties its very important to keep the freedom continuously. Jesus healed a paralytic person after few days or months when Jesus saw that person, Jesus said stop sinning or something worse may happen to you  John 5 :14
 
Once evil spirits leave the person it will come back again to check if anything is unclean, if he finds he goes and brings many other evil spirits and the condition will be worse that before.

Its very important to read, write and meditate Bible scriptures & do Praise & Worship.

Only word of God, prayer and Worship can transform the mind & life of a person.

PRAYER- DR.CAROLINE LEAF(BRAIN SCIENCETIST)

     
  It has been found that 12 minutes of daily focused prayer over an 8 week period can change the brain to such an extent that it can be measured on a brain scan.

This type of prayer seems to increase activity in brain areas associated with social interaction compassion and sensitivity to others.

It also increases frontal lobe activity as focus and intentionality increase. intentional prayer can even change physical matter.


SHAME AND GUILT

 

Consequences of sin is very hard. Enemy tires to bring guilt and condemnation of past confessed sins. Take heart and take stand in Christ. There is hope in Him.


Romans 8:1 - There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. 2 For in Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life has set you free from the law of sin and death.

ROLE OF A WIFE

 
     
        1. If husband is willing to workout to overcome porn addiction, you can forgive & give him another chance to work on himself.

        2. Do not criticize him and accuse him or make him guilt  for his confessed sin.He needs your help and prayers and encouragement to overcome this struggle.

        3. Patience and time is more important to both, husband and wife to overcome this issue completely.

        4. If  husband is not wiling to set free from this addiction its very important to take help from others who is Godly and who you can trust.Action speaks louder than words.

        5. Always trust the Lord and ask for wisdom from heaven.

    1 Peter 3:1 -In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over.

POWER IN PROCLAMATIONS BY FAITH

   
 
  • I AM GOD’S CHILD -JOHN 1:12 - I m citizen of heaven – Philippians 3:20

  • I HAVE BEEN JUSTIFIED -ROMANS 5:1 - I AM A MEMBER OF CHRIST’S BODY -1 COR 12:27

  • I AM FREE FROM CONDEMNATION -ROM 8:1-2 - I HAVE BEEN REDEEMED AND FORGIVEN OF ALL MY SINS -COL 1:13-14

  • I HAVE BEEN BOUGHT WITH A PRICE AND I BELONG TO GOD -1 COR 6:19-20

  • I MAY APPROACH GOD WITH FREEDOM AND CONFIDENCE -EPH 3:12

  • I AM BORN OF GOD AND THE EVIL ONE CANNOT TOUCH ME -1 JOHN 5:18

  • I HAVE BEEN SET FREE FROM SIN AND HAVE BECOME SLAVES TO RIGHTEOUSNESS -ROMANS 6:18

  • I AM UNITED WITH THE LORD, AND I AM ONE WITH HIM IN SPIRIT -1 COR 6:17

  • I AM CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST AND IT IS NO LONGER I WHO LIVE, BUT IT IS CHRIST WHO LIVES IN ME. -GALATIANS 2:20

  • I DEMOLISH ARGUMENTS AND EVERY PRETENSION THAT SETS ITSELF UP AGAINST THE KNOWLEDGE OF GOD, AND I TAKE CAPTIVE EVERY THOUGHT TO MAKE IT OBEDIENT TO CHRIST -2 CORINTHIANS 10: 5

  • I THINK ON THE THINGS WHATEVER IS TRUE, WHATEVER IS NOBLE, WHATEVER IS RIGHT, WHATEVER IS PURE, WHATEVER IS LOVELY, WHATEVER IS ADMIRABLE—IF ANYTHING IS EXCELLENT OR PRAISEWORTHY-PHILIPPIANS 4


POWER IN FAITH

   
 
    • God is pleased when we Praise & Worship Him with songs & enemy is defeated.
    • Healing & Deliverance happens as we Praise & Worship Him.
    • Make a playlist of Praise songs and sing to God everyday.
    • Jesus is full of Love & Compassion, He will never leave you nor forsake you. Whenever enemy brings negative thoughts about God or yourself just sing Praises to God

SING AND PRAISE GOD

   
 
    • Jesus I need you – Hillsong
    • Beautiful Exchange – Hillsong
    • I m forgiven – Philip, Craig & Dean
    • Bless the Lord - Matt Redman
    • Holy, Holy - Terry MacAlmon